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To that end, I refuse to read “what if” stories about either the pandemic or politics and I am cutting back on my daily news intake. So is Babins-Wagner. “I have limited my social media,” she says. “When I need a break, I just don’t find it a nurturing space. In my non-working time, I want to do things that will nurture me, that I’m going to enjoy, that I am going to feel good about.”
Reading yet another Twitter tirade is most definitely not nurturing. If after doom scrolling for a while, you find yourself steaming mad and wanting to yell at strangers (or anyone else, for that matter): “Change what you’re doing and where you’re doing it,” says Babins-Wagner. “That’s usually the first thing we suggest. The second is exercise or activity. That’s always a good strategy. If you find you can’t shake it, then talk to family and friends.” If none of that works for you, you may want to call in a professional counsellor to get some other strategies to get past the rage.
“Anger takes up more energy than more positive emotions,” she says. “See if you can switch it for something that would be inspiring to you instead of putting all that energy into being so angry.”
Here’s a thought: Instead of watching viral videos of angry encounters, try turning on Schitt’s Creek, the sweet, hilarious show about the riches to (designer) rags saga of the Rose family. Perhaps if more of us spent time studying how the Roses cope with their unforeseen and unfortunate change of circumstances, we’d find grace, humour and maybe even a few Emmys.
We’d also stockpile a few gems from matriarch Moira Rose to throw around, such as “stop acting like a disgruntled pelican” or “I may have been wrong. You may have been not wrong.” To get through the coming winter we could all use more humour and less anger: way more Moira and far less Karen.